Category Archives: Personal

Week 40: Birth

The birth story of my second child had its beginnings in many places – in the birth stories I heard from my dad who was a natural birth advocate and family doctor in the 70s and 80s, in my mom’s … Continue reading

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Week 39: Midwifery vs. OB models of care

I am shocked at the differences between midwifery and OB care. The 39 week appointment is always a time of trepidation for me as a doula and for my clients. It’s the appointment where providers order ultrasounds to check for … Continue reading

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Week 29: Transformation

I want to explain more clearly why I have been considering unassisted birth. I have considered it to be my safest realistic option because I have not trusted birth attendants, and while I fantasized about finding someone trustworthy, I acknowledged … Continue reading

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Week 26: Birth art: Fantasy of Labor and Birth

This is one of the art assignments in Birthing from Within, called Fantasy of Labor and Birth. I would describe this picture as the fantasy to be cradled in nature, sheltered by a big tree and mountain, with no other … Continue reading

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Week 25: Hospital birth plan

So as the OB recommended, I’ve come up with this hospital birth plan. It’s simple and explains what I most care about. Most consent and refusal of hospital procedures takes place verbally anyway, so I do believe that long written … Continue reading

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Week 24: Having rights should not be a marker of privilege

Still trying to sort out my visit with the OB. I think it’s important to separate all the feelings I have after this meeting. I feel elated at having been told that someone is actually going to go out of … Continue reading

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Week 23: Meeting with hospital OB

This OB is amazing. He said the specific words “patient rights trump protocol” and he really, really meant it. I walked into my meeting with him fully expecting to get some bland reassurances, maybe some talk about how every doctor … Continue reading

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Week 22: Words for the hospital and some for home

I could write these on cards, or just memorize them. Or I could look up this blog post should I need to. “Please do not touch me.” “I’m going to decline IV fluids, thank you.” “I would like to decline … Continue reading

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Week 21: The priority of safety vs. other values

A while ago a friend got me to thinking about the concept of “Safety First.” If we actually adhered to that principle, we’d never leave our houses, we’d never climb mountains, we’d never do sports, etc… There are so many … Continue reading

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Week 19: More musings on unassisted

I feel like considering whether to have an assisted or unassisted home birth, for me, mirrors the dilemma I see my doula clients get into when considering whether to have a hospital or home birth. Although prenatal care plays a … Continue reading

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