Category Archives: Consent

Week 25: Hospital birth plan

So as the OB recommended, I’ve come up with this hospital birth plan. It’s simple and explains what I most care about. Most consent and refusal of hospital procedures takes place verbally anyway, so I do believe that long written … Continue reading

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Week 23: Meeting with hospital OB

This OB is amazing. He said the specific words “patient rights trump protocol” and he really, really meant it. I walked into my meeting with him fully expecting to get some bland reassurances, maybe some talk about how every doctor … Continue reading

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Week 22: Words for the hospital and some for home

I could write these on cards, or just memorize them. Or I could look up this blog post should I need to. “Please do not touch me.” “I’m going to decline IV fluids, thank you.” “I would like to decline … Continue reading

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Week 18: A midwife’s nature, or the scorpion and the frog

I started a discussion at my prenatal appointment about tearing and perineal support, with the intention of asking my midwife how she does it. I ended up rambling about a birth I attended as a doula, and how instinctive everything … Continue reading

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Week 15: OB Interview questions

In a few weeks I will be meeting with an obstetrician at the nearest hospital to me. It’s a city hospital with a NICU and is known for being highly interventionist, and one person who has experience at the hospital … Continue reading

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Week 12: Midwives

Interviewing midwives, but I don’t trust anyone. This one’s too quiet, that one’s too strong, that one’s too talkative, this one’s too young, that one’s too busy… By now I have met nearly every midwife in this area. Some of … Continue reading

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Talking to pregnant women about my traumatic birth

For a while I told anybody and everybody all about my birth. Then for a while I didn’t talk about it much. I seem to have lately arrived at a middle ground where I feel like I’m not putting too … Continue reading

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Questions for my future midwife or OB

I asked all the right questions the first time around. I interviewed several home birth midwives and asked questions like, What is your hospital transfer plan? What position(s) can I give birth in? How long past my due date will … Continue reading

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Inappropriate use of restraints

My birth story is hard to tell and always will be, but in another way it is easy because it must be told in order for things to change. I’m sure I will tell it many times over in print … Continue reading

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Breaking the silence on obstetric violence: A case study on power/knowledge, medical discipline and the resistance of the childbearing woman

There are no relations of power without resistances; the latter are all the more real and effective because they are formed right at the point where relations of power are exercised. – Michel Foucault Any doula can tell you when … Continue reading

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